Happy Sunday!! I do hope that you are all doing well. Start of a brand new week. New start. New memories. New journeys. Live in the moment and enjoy them!! I am a little behind, but thank you all for the sweet happy birthday messages. You lovies really do rock. I had the absolute BEST birthday with my family and friends. So thank you again.
As I creep towards my late 20s, 2 away from the big old 30, I am slowly starting to become a more stable and solid person. My mid-20s, as I'm sure it was for many others, was a period of mild insecurities after realizing I didn't fit into any standard category anymore. Are you confused? Well, here's what I mean, recent college graduate, wife, or mother. Nope. It has taken some time to graduate from being asked "what are you majoring in?' to "what do you do for a living?".....to then realizing my life is not based on labels but it is all the rest that matters-like the people that I have encountered along the way, and the experiences and how I have given back.
I think reconsidering earlier life choices has helped me most to understand where exactly I needed to be and who I am as a person. It is so easy to get caught up in all of the day-to-day functions we've always done without fighting to know if it's right or if it will move us forward. So I just wanted to let you all in some things that helped me re-evaluate the direction of my life and how I can improve it going into my 30s.
1. Friends.....it's so easy to get caught up in the hype of keeping friends from high school and college around simply because you've known them for so long. But the question that we must ask ourselves is are your friends helping or hindering you? Do they support you and your goals? Do they offer support that helps you in reaching those goals? Do they make you a better person? And most importantly, are they putting in equal effort into the relationship? If the answer for all of these questions is not yes, it is certainly time for you to find some new friends who will share and support your goals and aspirations. We are getting to old to be carrying another adults dead weight around with us. Let them go.
2. Career.....I am going to assume that you all have a few years of professional work experience under your belts, so why not take your career to the next step? Moving from an entry-level to mid-level position, negotiating a higher salary, or maybe even moving into another job field or company completely if you are not happy where you are at. You are not a new employee anymore, you have good work experience and assets that need to be shared and utilized. Go for it!!! Step into a career that only brings home the bacon, but make it one that you absolutely love doing. Trust me, working at a job that you hate is the absolute worst. Been there and done that and don't wish to do it again.
3. Dating habits.....Haven't we all wondered why every date turns out to be a flop???? Well, lets be honest, just because there are plenty fish in the sea doesn't mean that they are all edible (which isn't your fault so to speak) But, if you are starting to recognize a pattern in your fishing flops, it is time redesign your criteria. Step back and take a moment and get to know yourself. Date yourself for a while. Learn who you are as a person and what you can bring and carry in the relationship. Learn your rolls and perfect them. Be prepared for when God does bring your husband along, you will be able to keep him and not chase him away. Love yourself first....lets just start there. The rest will follow.
4. Living situations.....If can be a great idea to save some money by living with roommates (never has been my cup of tea, but too each his/her own lol) at this point in your life you can probably afford to branch out and live on your own though. Living alone teaches you independence and you get to learn yourself just a little better. Living alone is a great opportunity to experience before becoming marrying and starting a family. So why not do it? Is it always peaches and cream? Heck no, it's hard at times. But the reward is far greater. Step out there and trust in your abilities. You are going to fall, but this is all apart of being an adult. Pick yourself back up and try again. Ladies, you can do this!!!
5. Saving habits.....Some of you might or might not be saving already. If you are not. START!! Your mid-20s is the time to step it up and take it to another notch. Challenge yourself and meet the goals. Even if it's $10 from every pay check that you put into your savings account and never touch. It's small, but it is a starting point. Set up some budgets and stick to them. I can't stress this enough to you. This might have been one of my hardest things to figure out. My parents and God parents stayed on me about this budgeting and thank God they did. If you don't already pay your tithes. Give your 10%. This my friend is the key to your life and blessings. This is mandatory! Also, you may think that saving for retirement means nothing now and it might not seem important, but these are the years where your money will earn the most. SAVE...SAVE...SAVE!
6. Hobbies.....This is the stage where you form interests and hobbies that go beyond school and work. Step out and try something new. Meet new friends that can be there for the rest of your life. If nothing else, it will give you more to talk about beyond what you do for a living. I started this pretty late in the game. I stuck to the norm of hobbies that I've had for years...soccer, cooking, reading blah blah blah. Boring. Lol. Now I'm doing things I never dreamed of. I am enjoying my life to the fullest and you should too :)
7. Relationships.....Examine your relationships with the people that you can't get rid of, like family members and co-workers. Are you treating them how you want to be treated? Are you holding onto unnecessary grudges and resentment that is not helpful for your well being? If so.......LET IT GO. Forgive them and yourself and move on. It's time to grow up and face reality. It happened, there's nothing that can be done to change the past so drop it and move onto better!! Start living your life and be happy about it.
8. RELIGION.....I don't know what your background of religion is but if you don't have one, this is an awesome time re-evaluate your spirituality and what it means to you. Maybe you need to revisit the idea of religion, or become stronger in it. What ever the case maybe, know God for yourself. Know him in the strength and might and let him take the wheel and drive you through life. God is one of the faithful few. He will never leave you nor forsake and he will direct your paths, if you let him. He is a keeper, an encourager, a provider, a healer and anything else that you need for him to be. Establish a relationship with him and watch how awesome your life becomes!!
I am no expert but these are all things that helped me in my 20s and I just wanted to offer some help to you all. Take them for what they are worth and use them how you like. I have to get ready for church now and prep my lasagna for dinner. Yummy!!
I love you lovies,
Moeneak Love
As I creep towards my late 20s, 2 away from the big old 30, I am slowly starting to become a more stable and solid person. My mid-20s, as I'm sure it was for many others, was a period of mild insecurities after realizing I didn't fit into any standard category anymore. Are you confused? Well, here's what I mean, recent college graduate, wife, or mother. Nope. It has taken some time to graduate from being asked "what are you majoring in?' to "what do you do for a living?".....to then realizing my life is not based on labels but it is all the rest that matters-like the people that I have encountered along the way, and the experiences and how I have given back.
I think reconsidering earlier life choices has helped me most to understand where exactly I needed to be and who I am as a person. It is so easy to get caught up in all of the day-to-day functions we've always done without fighting to know if it's right or if it will move us forward. So I just wanted to let you all in some things that helped me re-evaluate the direction of my life and how I can improve it going into my 30s.
1. Friends.....it's so easy to get caught up in the hype of keeping friends from high school and college around simply because you've known them for so long. But the question that we must ask ourselves is are your friends helping or hindering you? Do they support you and your goals? Do they offer support that helps you in reaching those goals? Do they make you a better person? And most importantly, are they putting in equal effort into the relationship? If the answer for all of these questions is not yes, it is certainly time for you to find some new friends who will share and support your goals and aspirations. We are getting to old to be carrying another adults dead weight around with us. Let them go.
2. Career.....I am going to assume that you all have a few years of professional work experience under your belts, so why not take your career to the next step? Moving from an entry-level to mid-level position, negotiating a higher salary, or maybe even moving into another job field or company completely if you are not happy where you are at. You are not a new employee anymore, you have good work experience and assets that need to be shared and utilized. Go for it!!! Step into a career that only brings home the bacon, but make it one that you absolutely love doing. Trust me, working at a job that you hate is the absolute worst. Been there and done that and don't wish to do it again.
3. Dating habits.....Haven't we all wondered why every date turns out to be a flop???? Well, lets be honest, just because there are plenty fish in the sea doesn't mean that they are all edible (which isn't your fault so to speak) But, if you are starting to recognize a pattern in your fishing flops, it is time redesign your criteria. Step back and take a moment and get to know yourself. Date yourself for a while. Learn who you are as a person and what you can bring and carry in the relationship. Learn your rolls and perfect them. Be prepared for when God does bring your husband along, you will be able to keep him and not chase him away. Love yourself first....lets just start there. The rest will follow.
4. Living situations.....If can be a great idea to save some money by living with roommates (never has been my cup of tea, but too each his/her own lol) at this point in your life you can probably afford to branch out and live on your own though. Living alone teaches you independence and you get to learn yourself just a little better. Living alone is a great opportunity to experience before becoming marrying and starting a family. So why not do it? Is it always peaches and cream? Heck no, it's hard at times. But the reward is far greater. Step out there and trust in your abilities. You are going to fall, but this is all apart of being an adult. Pick yourself back up and try again. Ladies, you can do this!!!
5. Saving habits.....Some of you might or might not be saving already. If you are not. START!! Your mid-20s is the time to step it up and take it to another notch. Challenge yourself and meet the goals. Even if it's $10 from every pay check that you put into your savings account and never touch. It's small, but it is a starting point. Set up some budgets and stick to them. I can't stress this enough to you. This might have been one of my hardest things to figure out. My parents and God parents stayed on me about this budgeting and thank God they did. If you don't already pay your tithes. Give your 10%. This my friend is the key to your life and blessings. This is mandatory! Also, you may think that saving for retirement means nothing now and it might not seem important, but these are the years where your money will earn the most. SAVE...SAVE...SAVE!
6. Hobbies.....This is the stage where you form interests and hobbies that go beyond school and work. Step out and try something new. Meet new friends that can be there for the rest of your life. If nothing else, it will give you more to talk about beyond what you do for a living. I started this pretty late in the game. I stuck to the norm of hobbies that I've had for years...soccer, cooking, reading blah blah blah. Boring. Lol. Now I'm doing things I never dreamed of. I am enjoying my life to the fullest and you should too :)
7. Relationships.....Examine your relationships with the people that you can't get rid of, like family members and co-workers. Are you treating them how you want to be treated? Are you holding onto unnecessary grudges and resentment that is not helpful for your well being? If so.......LET IT GO. Forgive them and yourself and move on. It's time to grow up and face reality. It happened, there's nothing that can be done to change the past so drop it and move onto better!! Start living your life and be happy about it.
8. RELIGION.....I don't know what your background of religion is but if you don't have one, this is an awesome time re-evaluate your spirituality and what it means to you. Maybe you need to revisit the idea of religion, or become stronger in it. What ever the case maybe, know God for yourself. Know him in the strength and might and let him take the wheel and drive you through life. God is one of the faithful few. He will never leave you nor forsake and he will direct your paths, if you let him. He is a keeper, an encourager, a provider, a healer and anything else that you need for him to be. Establish a relationship with him and watch how awesome your life becomes!!
I am no expert but these are all things that helped me in my 20s and I just wanted to offer some help to you all. Take them for what they are worth and use them how you like. I have to get ready for church now and prep my lasagna for dinner. Yummy!!
I love you lovies,
Moeneak Love
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