Happy Tuesday Lovies!!!!
Today's blog really doesn't have any long story about why I picked this topic. It's just a topic that I wanted to discuss because I felt like the definition for what others; as well as, what we as women place on what makes us a woman can sometimes be a little unattainable. Now if you're born a woman obviously you're a woman. I am referring more so to how we look, how we dress, how we speak, how we act, and how we carry ourselves etc.
I know as for me, I very rarely leave my house (with the exception of maybe going to workout or to the mailbox) without some kind of makeup, hair done, and some form of a coordinated outfit. I almost feel a little unlike myself if I don't because I enjoy playing in makeup and enhancing my natural beauty especially given the fact that I work in a warehouse. It's almost ridiculous to show up to work with a full face of makeup on and my most stylish outfit. So when I am off the clock or just enjoying my free time I tend too like to look nice and spiffy. For those of you who actually know me outside of my blogs you know that I am a simple girl. I wear mostly black everyday, jeans, flats, and I always go for a natural makeup look. I am never really over the top with anything that I do. I wear my hair the same way, my outfits are all very similar, my fashion and style is very casual comfortable. In the past I have found myself having to justify my reasoning for why I choose to carry myself as such. I have heard that I am fake because I constantly tell other women to embrace their natural hair and beauty but yet I wear makeup and get my nails done. My answer is very simple to this statement. I am natural all day everyday. I am not afraid of what I look like without makeup on, nor am I scared to embrace it. Just because I choose to wear makeup doesn't make me any less of a natural person. I am natural all of the time, and this is just one subsection of my naturalness. Neither state is weird or unusual for me. I am just as comfortable with myself with a face full of makeup, as I am with myself without any makeup on at all. The fact that people have a hard time understanding this is completely beyond what I can grasp.
As some of you may know I lost a lot of weight in the past years and I am yet and still shedding the pounds. Getting in shape and becoming more healthy has helped me to become more in touch with myself. I am more conscious of what others see and relate beauty towards. I am more aware of how society views woman. I am aware of the different body types that we as woman are criticized for having. I am aware that I constantly have to keep the appearance of being girlie when sometimes I just want to throw on some sweats and a hoodie and just relax. This need that we need to justify ourselves one to another and to constantly criticize our own bodies while making commitments and promises to ourselves obsessing over small changes has become so ingrained in our culture and in our everyday lives that it can be hard to just let go and be yourself. Every female is striving to be this perfect girl who is thin with perfect skin, hair, and teeth and all of these other traits that we THINK define beauty but when you're a girl who loves to eat pizza, not wear makeup, and are not as skinny as the girls on the cover of magazines what then do we think of ourselves??
We idiolize these women on TV not knowing that they face the same day to day struggles that we all face. They wake up battling the appearance that they see in the mirror and what they want to portray versus the appearance that society has given them and placed upon them. Everywhere we turn in society we're tearing each other down over appearance. We cannot escape being consumed by what we look like and how we go about accomplishing it. I am so sick of the judgement that we place on ourselves and the judgment that we allow others to place on us. Why can't we get to a place where we just embrace who we are and focus more on the inner appearance? Not at the cost of our sanity and self love. Not at the cost of our dignity. We as woman are so much more than what meets the eye.
If you enjoy wearing makeup and getting dolled up everyday, that's great. As long as you're happy with the woman that you see in the mirror everyday that is all that counts. Lets focus more on encouraging and lifting each other up. Lets stop tearing each other down over small and trivial things that really don't make us any less of a woman than the next. Your girlie appearance doesn't make you any more or less of a woman than someone who is more casually dressed. We are all fighting the same battle together, just be the best you that you can be and the rest will work itself out.
Beauty is only a small portion of who you are. Don't allow something so small and trivial to make or break you as a woman. Embrace the skin that you're in, stand tall and proud and love yourself.
A woman whose smile is open and whose expression is glad has a kind of beauty no matter what she wears!!
I love you,
Moeneak
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