Happy Sunday Lovies!!
Often times in our life it is nice to have people in your corner to lean on and people that have known us since we were little. Those are the people who tend to know your story from the very beginning. They are the ones who know you best. Although, no one can stand in your shoes and know every little detail of what it is like to walk in your shoes. No one has been through the exact same battle that you have been through and nobody knows what it feels like to be you. No one except for you, of course.
When I look back on my life and the many friends that I've had there have been times when I've felt very lonely and wished that my life was as glorious as there lives "appeared" to be. I say appeared because we all know that everything that glitters is not gold. We are all battling our own separate battles everyday. Some just hide the battle better then others; but nevertheless, there is a battle. You notice that people start venturing out into the world and becoming adults, while some are just struggling to make it through that specific day. It seems like everyone is finding their perfect soul mate whom they'll spend the rest of their lives with while some of us only have a comfy blanket and a teddy bear that we cuddle up with at night. For some they will say just how sad that really is but hey, it's the reality for several of us. Some of us are walking into careers that we have dreamed of our entire lives and others are in a battle trying to figure out exactly who they are. And then there are those who have absolutely zero motivation to strive for anything in life but only to have things handed to them. And trust me, these are all stages in my life that I have experienced and yet and still experience. Minus the last one, I am very motivated about the things that I want out of life and the direction that I see my life heading in, but I have had obstacles thrown in my way that at times have caused me to focus my attention else where.
I dropped out of college a few years back when I went through my divorce. I was in a very low place and the 20 plus years that I spent building myself up and believing in my greatness was shattered in a blink of an eye. I started to battle with low self esteem, I gained a tremendous amount of weight, I cried and beat myself up for years. I questioned why something so horrible and tragic had to happen to me. I will not go into the details because I plan on sharing that story in another blog, but just know that even though the odds were stacked against me I fought through the pain. I fought through the tears. I fought through the slandering of my name and character. I fought and I pressed my way and I came out standing much taller than I myself even expected. It took for me to go through that situation because it taught me that I am in charge of my own happiness. My happiness is not predicated on what others say about me or what they bring to the table. It showed me that self love is such an important trait to possess. It showed me that making a move in the wrong season of your life can be very much detrimental to your path in which you are taking. The whole don't be "unequally yoked" scripture.......very much a truth to it. Not just in marriage, but life in general. Whether it be with friendships, family, or work peers. Don't get yourself caught up in something that can hinder your purpose in life. Surround yourself around people who are going in similar directions as you, people who want similar things out of life as you, people who can push you and motivate you to want better for yourself, people who can pray and believe for you when you are not strong enough to pray and believe for yourself. People who you can trust and that will be there to stand with you when the loads get heavy because trust me, they will get heavy. I am thankful for my struggles because without them I would not have stumbled across my strengths.
Most importantly trust in your self. Believe in your own strengths. Get to a place where you can push and motivate yourself even when no one else will do it. You are your biggest cheerleader. You are your biggest fan. Don't doubt yourself while you go through the tough moments of your life. Tell yourself that this will only last for a season and in due time you will come out of it. Tell yourself that you are more than a conqueror. Tell yourself that you deserve better and that you can have whatever your heart desires. Tell yourself that you are beautiful, fearfully, and wonderfully made. Surround yourself around positivity and positivity will show on you. Speak positive things into your life and positive things will begin to happen for you. The Bible says that the power of life and death is in your tongue. So say something encouraging to yourself everyday. Give yourself a compliment everyday. Love yourself a little bit more everyday. Be the best you that you can be everyday. Yesterday is done and over with so don't bring the troubles of yesterday into your tomorrow. Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.
I love you all
XOXO
Moeneak :)
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